Breaking Soul Ties
“Soul Ties -- Power to Control”
by Dr. Kenneth Copley
What are unhealthy “soul ties”?
Soul ties are,”unholy alliances”,”perverse relationships”, they are best defined as
A strong intimate bonding relationship between two or more people. I like
The term soul-joined.
Soul--Gr.”psyche”--meaning mind,will,and emotions. James 1:21, 1Peter1:22,
Joined--Gr-.-“Kollao”--to glue,to stick, 1Corinthians 6:16.
The differences between healthy and unhealthy soul ties
Healthy—centered on that which is founded on love (agape), what is Godly,
eternal and good.
Unhealthy—centered on that which is lustful, sinful, temporal and evil.
Types of Soul Ties
Healthy—approved by God represent the bonding of two persons in agape love.
Marriage—In marriage it is God’s purpose that a man and woman “Be joined “!
…and the two shall become one flesh” Ephesians 5:31. They are to be bonded
by love,” So husbands ought to love their own wives…” Ephesians5:28.
Friendship—“ The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan
Loved him as his own soul “1 Samuel8: 1. Pure and holy ties
Among friends are always based on godly love.
Parent & Child—“His father loves him…His life is bound up in the lad’s
life, and his soul knit with the lad’s soul” Genesis44: 20,30 illustrates Jacob’s
love for Benjamin. When a child is born, the infant should be bonded to his
parents. When a healthy tie is formed it ministers throughout life, love, and
security to that child. The soul tie between parent and child’s personality
stabilizes a child’s personality.
Other Christians—The church is made up of many members who are knit
together and built up together through love. “From him the whole body
joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grown and builds
itself up in love,(growth of the body ) as each part does its work.” Ephesians 4:16.
Unhealthy –demonic soul ties are founded on lust. Satan cannot go beyond his limited
Rights: He must work within the framework of which is allowed. When the enemy gets
The opportunity, he will pervert that which is pure.
Sexual Immorality—“Do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body
with her? For ‘The two’, He says’,’shall become one flesh’” 1Corinthians 6:16.
Through sexual relationships outside of marriage, become one flesh which God has
purposed solely only for a husband and wife.
Evil Companions—“ Do not be deceived and misled! Evil companionships
[communion, associations] corrupt and deprave good manners and moral
character” 1e Corinthians 15:33 AMP. A person is easily influenced by his
friends, so it is important to choose righteous and holy friends.
Family Ties that are unhealthy—
When a son or daughter is ready for marriage and marries, it is important
That the soul tie with the parents is terminated in order for the soul tie
between the husband and wife to be formed.
Sexual perversion within a family will also cause an unhealthy soul tie to be formed.
When the essential bonding between parents is missed at birth, it leaves
their children a target for the enemy because of the rejection and insecurity they feel.
Parents must never control adult children as they get older and their relationship continues.
Adult children must not be too dependent on a parent spiritually,
emotionally, or financially.
Soul ties with the Dead—Prolonged mourning may indicate the continuation
Of a soul tie, and the stress of extended grief will create an opportunity for an
unhealthy bond with the dead. After a reasonable time of grieving, it is
important to completely release these people to the Lord.
Church—There are evil soul ties represented by cliques which cause division
within the church and must be confronted-1 Corinthians 12:24.
Some pastors join people to themselves rather than to Christ—1 Corinthians 16:17.
This unnatural bonding actually seduces the people away
From Christ. Such ungodly soul ties may be formed by intentional and
Unintentional designs by a pastor. They may initiated by members of the
congregation who idolize the pastor above Christ.Cults and cultic type
churches are an out growth of these kind of soul tie—1 Corinthians 3:-5
Possible symptoms of Soul Ties that are Unhealthy
Someone you have dreams about or wake up in the night thinking about.
Someone your mind continues to focus on, especially obsessively.
Continuing emotional reaction to another individual when you meet him
or her unexpectedly hears his or her voice in the phone, or hear his or her
name mentioned.
Someone you are obsessively emotionally afraid of.
Someone whose name or face comes into your mind while our are
Intimate with your spouse.
Someone you dread running into or hope you won’t see.
Someone you look to who feeds or needs your unfulfilled emotional needs.
Hearing their voice in your head and/or talking with them.
Breaking the Power of Control
God ultimately breaks the bondage of unhealthy soul ties—2 Peter 2:7,9;
Isaiah 58:6.
Our responsibility to follow the right path and guard our hearts—Proverbs
4:23, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4, Proverbs 4:14-16,4:23-27, 7:5,7,10-11,21, Proverbs
22:4-5, Titus 1:5-11
Prayers for breaking unhealthy/sinful soul ties
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Confession of sin (repentant spirit)
Sample prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, I come before the throne in Jesus
Christ’s name. I confess the sin of ___________ with _______________ .
I ask your forgiveness and choose to receive your forgiveness, according to 1 John 1:9. I choose to forgive _________________for_________________.
and make me feel ___________ .I now release ____________
to You, Heavenly Father, and I choose to accept the consequences of their sin
against me. I ask that You would take back the ground I gave to Satan
because of the sin of bitterness and resentment, and cleanse me with Your
blood. I thank you for your forgiveness. Dear Heavenly Father, please
separate my body, soul , and spirit from the body, soul, and spirit of ___________,and break the bond that Satan has in my life.
Growth is an ongoing process regarding ongoing relationships (i.e.parents)
When triggered by someone, look for the need this person is meeting in an
Unhealthy way in you or life that Christ should be meeting—Thessalonians 3:3-5.
Yield your next response to the Lord and what He would have you say or do.
Prepare your heart for future confrontations—1Peter 3:15.
